Allow me to share this with you. Anele, thanks for this post. =)
LOVE spares no one. All relationships are put to the fire. There's no such thing as a constantly happy couple. There's no such thing as constantly happy relationship. All of us in one point in our affairs will have to go through a cleansing process, which hopefully will make us better persons. Let us always remember that all our relationships are put to the test to make us better persons.
Second to love, the next most important ingredient to a successful relationship is COMMUNICATION. Many would agree that there are certain things in relationship that are better kept unsaid but I don't believe in that. The moment we lie about our feelings or the wrong that we have done, we begin to build a wall of brick around ourselves. Every time we hide something out of fear, we add a brick to that wall and soon we would be total strangers to the very people we vowed to be with for the rest of our lives. We will start to hurt inside until we can no longer bear the pain. Until we regretfully give up the very relationship that we wanted to keep.
Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. If we cannot bravely express our innermost fears, doubts and insecurities to the people we love then our ties are doom to fail sooner or later. I would rather be hurt by a person who is honest than be hurt by someone who betrayed my trust. Many couples suffer in silence because they are afraid that opening up would just make things worst. They keep their feelings to themselves. Until their affection towards other diminishes to the point were separation becomes inevitable. Remember, there is no burden so heavy that it cannot be lightened by an open, honest and peaceful exchange of thoughts and feelings. Fights are inevitable. Oftentimes we hurt those we love because we insist on protecting our own feelings. Selfishness is a poison that recklessly kills relationships. It is only when we set aside our pride, arrogance, and anger that we are able to deal with ranging emotions sensible and peacefully. There would be a lot of times when we would be tempted to think only of the things that would make us happy. Most of the time, the happiness we get from satisfying our own want is the happiness we deprive of others of. Our joy is their pain and our rise is their fall.
We understand because we listened to what each of us were trying to say. We realized what was going on because we talked about our feelings. We hurt each other badly because we both became selfish. But the pain we felt was washed away by the fact that love among all the feelings we shared still remains the strongest pillar which we have built our marriage upon. Indeed, beautiful things will always be built on the foundations of pain. We are strengthened by our adversity and by trials in our relationship.
It is not how much pain we feel that matters. What matters is that we are able to find a space in our hearts to forgive those who have hurt us. It is not how hard we have stumbled that matters. What matters is that we master enough courage to stand on our feet and try again. It does not matter if we have found love and lost it. What matters more is the joy that feeling brought us. What matters most is that we have loved at all.
by:
Joe D' Mango
LOVE spares no one. All relationships are put to the fire. There's no such thing as a constantly happy couple. There's no such thing as constantly happy relationship. All of us in one point in our affairs will have to go through a cleansing process, which hopefully will make us better persons. Let us always remember that all our relationships are put to the test to make us better persons.
Second to love, the next most important ingredient to a successful relationship is COMMUNICATION. Many would agree that there are certain things in relationship that are better kept unsaid but I don't believe in that. The moment we lie about our feelings or the wrong that we have done, we begin to build a wall of brick around ourselves. Every time we hide something out of fear, we add a brick to that wall and soon we would be total strangers to the very people we vowed to be with for the rest of our lives. We will start to hurt inside until we can no longer bear the pain. Until we regretfully give up the very relationship that we wanted to keep.
Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. If we cannot bravely express our innermost fears, doubts and insecurities to the people we love then our ties are doom to fail sooner or later. I would rather be hurt by a person who is honest than be hurt by someone who betrayed my trust. Many couples suffer in silence because they are afraid that opening up would just make things worst. They keep their feelings to themselves. Until their affection towards other diminishes to the point were separation becomes inevitable. Remember, there is no burden so heavy that it cannot be lightened by an open, honest and peaceful exchange of thoughts and feelings. Fights are inevitable. Oftentimes we hurt those we love because we insist on protecting our own feelings. Selfishness is a poison that recklessly kills relationships. It is only when we set aside our pride, arrogance, and anger that we are able to deal with ranging emotions sensible and peacefully. There would be a lot of times when we would be tempted to think only of the things that would make us happy. Most of the time, the happiness we get from satisfying our own want is the happiness we deprive of others of. Our joy is their pain and our rise is their fall.
We understand because we listened to what each of us were trying to say. We realized what was going on because we talked about our feelings. We hurt each other badly because we both became selfish. But the pain we felt was washed away by the fact that love among all the feelings we shared still remains the strongest pillar which we have built our marriage upon. Indeed, beautiful things will always be built on the foundations of pain. We are strengthened by our adversity and by trials in our relationship.
It is not how much pain we feel that matters. What matters is that we are able to find a space in our hearts to forgive those who have hurt us. It is not how hard we have stumbled that matters. What matters is that we master enough courage to stand on our feet and try again. It does not matter if we have found love and lost it. What matters more is the joy that feeling brought us. What matters most is that we have loved at all.
by:
Joe D' Mango
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