FORGIVE and FORGET.
I’ve heard and been told this line several times in this lifetime. How many of us find it so much easier to do the former than the latter? Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, right? Forgetting is tough.
Forgiving is a way for a person to let go and start moving on. Thus, allowing herself/himself to eventually heal. It’s a gift we should give ourselves NOT the person who caused us pain. By forgiving, we decide to live in the present and not in the past.
Forgiving doesn’t always mean resuming a relationship with whoever has caused you pain. If a person won’t meet you halfway or has been abusive it may be healthier to forgive simply to make your life less stressful and taxing but continue to keep your distance. That way, you can guard yourself but still reap the benefits.
It’s always heartbreaking and unfortunate when you experience being hurt by someone you thought was the last person to do so. You find yourself in absolute shock, trying to comprehend where it’s all coming from and why you are being targeted. But after a while, it sinks in and you start to take the proper route by empathizing with that person who obviously has a lot of personal issues to deal with and you happen to be at the wrong place and time. It is at this point where you first consider the possibility of forgiveness.
There are some relationships that need to be either put on hold or completely tainted, after a conflict takes place. In order to protect ourselves from possibly getting hurt again, we decide to set boundaries. Better safe than sorry. *if you ask me*
Distance, as they say, is not always a bad thing. In some cases, distance is the key to forgetting don’t you think?
I’ve heard and been told this line several times in this lifetime. How many of us find it so much easier to do the former than the latter? Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, right? Forgetting is tough.
Forgiving is a way for a person to let go and start moving on. Thus, allowing herself/himself to eventually heal. It’s a gift we should give ourselves NOT the person who caused us pain. By forgiving, we decide to live in the present and not in the past.
Forgiving doesn’t always mean resuming a relationship with whoever has caused you pain. If a person won’t meet you halfway or has been abusive it may be healthier to forgive simply to make your life less stressful and taxing but continue to keep your distance. That way, you can guard yourself but still reap the benefits.
It’s always heartbreaking and unfortunate when you experience being hurt by someone you thought was the last person to do so. You find yourself in absolute shock, trying to comprehend where it’s all coming from and why you are being targeted. But after a while, it sinks in and you start to take the proper route by empathizing with that person who obviously has a lot of personal issues to deal with and you happen to be at the wrong place and time. It is at this point where you first consider the possibility of forgiveness.
There are some relationships that need to be either put on hold or completely tainted, after a conflict takes place. In order to protect ourselves from possibly getting hurt again, we decide to set boundaries. Better safe than sorry. *if you ask me*
Distance, as they say, is not always a bad thing. In some cases, distance is the key to forgetting don’t you think?
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